I have just completed Patterning workshop with SuperGenius and Ryan Pinnick.
It has been without a doubt few most intensive and emotionally charged days of my life. I feel like an operation on my soul has been done and my heart has been healed. Or at least it has started the healing process. What I learned is beyond measures and without a doubt has been the most enlightening and humbling process of all. In terms of personal development journey, it took me over 2 years to get here. 2 years of discovering myself and preparing for the truth of what that little “dwarf” inside my head does, to sabotage my end results. In terms of my whole life, I feel like I have spent 34 years of my life living in Matrix. Unwiring it was one thing. Applying what I learned, seeing the red flags and making things happen despite “the dwarf” running the show is another thing.
“With great power comes great responsibility”. In the last few days I have learned some super powerful stuff. I learned that NOTHING happens by accident. At the moment it is still sinking in and I am absorbing it, while feeling a little emotionally overwhelmed. I want to thank everyone who helped facilitate the workshop for your patience and perseverance to dig out the truth. It was a tough gig. I also thank Ryan for his love and integrity to tell us what we needed to hear, not what we wanted to hear. I won’t go into details of what I learned, as it is extremely personal and could be used as a weapon against me or other participants. But what I can say is that I had absolutely no idea to what degree my subconscious mind has controlled me and my outcomes.
It will take me years to master applying of how my little “dwarf “ inside me sabotages me from achieving my goals and vision. What I can say is now I know that I am a woman standing in my own power. And I take full responsibility for my actions and my outcomes. Blaming others for what happened in the past, for what didn’t work will occasionally still happen, because I am a human after all. But now I know that while it’s nobody’s fault when bad things happen to us, we somehow attract them. I also feel extremely humbled as I know every human being on this planet has their own “dwarf” that runs the show. And if people had a choice, even those doing bad things, they would choose love. Ultimately we are all seeking for love but somehow we were wounded as children in relation to it, one way or another. So we built walls around our hearts to protect us, the coping mechanism that allowed the scaring process and survival.
If you want to learn how to unwire your own Matrix and begin the journey of self-discovery beyond measures, all you need to do it sign up and come to the 1 day workshop with SuperGenius. The truth will set you free.
Thank you for reading.
I woke up last night from an immense dream. I was trying to rescue someone that I used to deeply care about by covering up for them. S. was apparently a cocaine addict and I tried to hide needles and drugs from his mum, until I couldn’t bear it any longer. I suffered because he suffered. He never realised how much I cared…
And then I woke up. Looked at the time. 2.45am. A total fiction. That dream never happened in reality. However, it made me think of S. who was the main character in my dream’s “action movie”. I tossed in bed and recalled one significant event.
We were highschool classmates. He had green eyes, long dark curly hair (I’ve always had a soft spot for hair) and a shy smile. He was also a really nice guy. Half of my female classmates had a crush on him. So did I. But I would never, ever, reveal it. As a 17-year-old, I used to hide under a baggy jumper and loose corduroys, paired up with Dr Martens on my feet and glasses on my face. I was invisible. And I did everything to stay that way. I also felt not lovable. There was no way on the planet that guy would ever look at me as a girl, let alone a potential girlfriend. But I was a good student, a diligent one. I was particularly good at subjects such as Polish, English and German. I grew up in Poland so Polish was an obligatory subject to learn.
One day S. sat down next to me during Polish lesson. I kind of assumed that he knew I’d be able to help him with the subject if there was work to be done. I assumed that was the reason he sat beside me. Our teacher of Polish – Mrs L., walked in. She couldn’t have been more than 155cm (5’1”) tall but she was fierce and very, very strict. A lot of students feared her because of how strict she was and her short temper. If she caught you unprepared, boy you were in trouble. She also had a great broad knowledge about the World, which I truly respected her for. I actually really liked her.
That day Mrs L. decided to ask S. questions to check his knowledge on a piece of literature we were working on. I can’t recall what book we were talking about. I suppose it doesn’t matter. She asked him a question and S. went quiet. She repeated it and he still kept quiet, his eyes down looking at the table both me and him were sitting at. Tension in the classroom was intense and rising with every second. No one dared to speak. It lasted good a couple of minutes. And then S. started crying. Tears welled up in his eyes and went down his cheeks. It was a cry of someone who couldn’t express himself, a quiet one, one that he hopelessly tried to hide. My hands got sweaty. I could have easily written with my own sweat on the table. Mrs L. asked him what was the matter. I can’t remember the exact words, but S. explained that he had studied hard to be prepared for that lesson, but when it came to answering a question from her, he had a mental block. He couldn’t say a word. He now was sobbing, and inside me I was sobbing, too. I felt his pain. He explained to the teacher that he’d always struggled with his shyness and not being able to express himself. I wanted to put my hand on top of his and hold it, but I didn’t. I wanted to give him a hug and say what I really felt but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I was paralysed with fear of judgement and rejection from my classmates. I was bullied at school as it was and showing even a small gesture would have revealed how much love I had for S. I didn’t want anyone to take the mick out of him, it was enough that I was bullied. My heart was crying with him and for him, but I sat there, with my head down and sweaty hands on the table.
S. though, spoke out about his shyness and how he’d always struggled with it. He opened up about how it had affected his life. There was a silence in the classroom. No one dared to say anything. Eventually the teacher got up from her seat, came up to him and gave him an awkward hug. She was really reassuring. She showed her human side. S.’s vulnerability opened her heart as a human, and I bet it shifted something inside many of my classmates. I remember I wrote a note on the side of my notebook and let him read it. If I recall it said “don’t worry, be happy”. I think I also passed him a tissue. That’s all I could bring myself to do.
For quite a few years I regretted not doing what I should have done in that situation – squeezing his hand and telling him that everything was going to be ok. Revealing my emotions and my vulnerability.
Someone eventually figured out anyway that I must have had a crush on S. because I started getting text messages (sent from internet), about how much he loved me and that he couldn’t sleep at night or eat because he was thinking of me. Very, very cruel considering that I was an introvert teenage girl, feeling not lovable, powerless, invisible, not belonging and not capable to come out with my feelings and emotions.
So last night I had that ridiculous dream about S. Half of my lifetime has passed since that event. Both of us have established our own lives, quite happy ones as far as I can tell. Dreams speak to us in symbols. What became obvious last night is that I wasn’t only protecting myself (from bullying), in my mind I was also protecting S. from potentially being hurt by others. I paid a high price for it. I suffered in silence.
One of my visions is to teach children mindfulness and to reduce the stigma of bullying. The offenders often hide their own insecurities and issues by bullying others. Showing children (including teenagers) how to deal with their emotions would truly help not only the ones that are bullied but also the bullies. And vulnerability can be key to showing the real you, being open to receive everything that comes your way, including love.
Funny that I still have a fear of judgement and rejection to post this piece of writing. What if one of my former classmates reads it? What if HE reads it? I am letting go of the need to know. Vulnerability is being open to receive, whatever comes your way. And a key to start the healing process.
Thank you for reading.
Bogna aka Boogie x
When I was a university student, every New Year I used to participate in something called Pilgrimage of Trust through Earth. It is an ecumenic Christian meeting for Youth from all over Europe (and the World). It is organised by the community of brothers from Taize, France. Every year it takes place in a different European city.
I went first time when I was only 17 years old and the meeting took place in Paris then. After that, for 6 consecutive years, I participated in those meetings in Hamburg (Germany), Lisbon (Portugal), Milan (Italy), Zagreb (Croatia) and in Geneva (Switzerland). Every year, after 4 days of praying, laughing, crying and meeting amazing people I felt uplifted and enlightened, ready for whatever the New Year was going to throw at me. Then I became a cruise ship photographer and moved abroad, which I guess made it more difficult to participate. I also went a couple of times to the village of Taize in the summer, including an epic hitchhiking trip with my Mum (yes, my Mum!) in 2010.
It’s been nearly a year since me and my partner went to Bali. A lot has happened in that year and I found it hard to find motivation for blogging. I have split with my partner of 5 years recently and am still trying to find my feet. So please forgive me the humongous delay in writing.
Luckily, I took some notes while we were travelling so now I can recall the memories. It’s different to write as you travel, and different when you’re trying to do it after a while, from memory. I’ll do my best.